Can Soul Ties Be One Sided? Do They Affect Men?

What is a soul tie?

Before we get the answer to this questions, we must first know a few things about this tie.
  • It is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with someone else. They are strong attatchments which are formed through getting to know someone be it physically, socially or emotionally.You can become bound to a person through your soul.If you have excessively been tormented by thoughts about a person and you rehearse times with them,you could have ties with them.If you have greived over a relationship that was once sweet and then went sour,you could be having them.
The term Tie means to:
  • cleave together,
  • stick
  • join or knit. – where two become one.

How are they formed?

They are formed through:
  1. close friendships,
  2. vows, commitments and promises,
  3. physical intimacy.

Are all soul ties bad?

Not all are bad.
  • Good soul ties
God created us to have healthy relationships which will build us,give us wisdom and godly counsel.He strategically brings very good relationships to us so as to form healthy should ties.
“When David had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own life” (1 Sam. 18:1 (AMP).
Two people are joined together in a godly marriage and they become one flesh. When they become one flesh, they are bound together and they cleave to each other in a unique way to build a healthy and close relationship.
Matthew 19:5, "And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh."
  • Bad / unhealthy soul ties
On the other hand, satan does bring counterfeits into our lives and this form unhealthy soul ties.Bad soul ties are formed for example when one has sex outside marriage and becomes defiled.
Genesis 34:2-3, "And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, andlay with her, and defiled her. And his soul cleaved unto Dinahthe daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spoke kindly unto the damsel."
That is why most people have feelings towards their ex lovers even after many years.
Other ways unhealthy soul ties can be formed include:·
  • Abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally)·
  • Adulterous affairs· Sex before marriage· Controlling relationships
  • Unholy alliances and perverse relationships

Are they just in relationships? Types of soul ties

  1. Biological between a parent and child
  2. Social like when you join a social group eg a church,club and you have a bond as a group
  3. Emotional eg when you share emotions and experiences like Ruth and Naomi.“Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.”Ruth 1:16.Sometimes emotional soul ties are created with individuals and it makes it hard for them to make decisions without the other party or even be obedient to God because of the tie he or she has with someone else.
  4. Spiritual. God gave us the ability to impart, wisdom, knowledge, skill and spiritual gifts to one another.Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, andmost importantly Jesus and His disciples.
  5. Physical.through sexual relationships. These soul ties can be formed through any kind of sexual activity.“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”Genesis 2:24. It is said that every time you perform a sexual act outside of marriage you give away a piece of your soul. It is a spiritual unity of two souls (bodies) becoming one but should only be done under marriage.Unlike popular belief sex does not only involve the body.It involves the soul, spirit and body.There is nothing as casual sex because as people get intimate something might be happening on a higher level that they might not have decided.

Symptoms

They are so easy to recognize because their symptoms are mostly very visible.Below are some of the symptoms.
  • You often dream or wake up at night thinking about someone
  • You think or see someone in your mind when you are intimate with your partner.
  • You hear someone's voice in your head
  • You are unable to walk out of an emotionally and physically abusive relationship because you feel so attached to them.
  • You think about another person obsessively even though you parted ways long ago.
  • You think about someone all the time even if you don't want to be with them.You waste valuable time thinking when the next phone call will come or trying to find out if they were seeing other women.
  • You defend your right to stay in a relationship even when its affecting you and your kids negatively.
  • You feel you badly need someone even if you know they aren't good for you.
  • You just can't let go.Every time you try to let go you keep coming back.One month you are gone and the next month you are back to the person.Can they be one sided and do they affect men?
  • As earlier stated, a soul tie is defined as an emotional bond or connection.One person ,most likely the woman is likely to form a deep attachment maybe because women are so emotional and base love on emotion instead of facts, like men do.Women fall in love without even realizing who the person they are falling for really is.It is easy for a woman to be taken advantage of because she is led by emotions.So yes, they can be one sided if the love or connection wasn't mutual.
  • Men too can get soul ties but in majority of cases men don't form that deep connection or attatchement with friends or women so they aren't soul tied.A man can easily move on meaning he did not have that attachment.But there are men who deeply and truly fall in love and breaking up with a woman becomes hard.Men get hurt too but they still find themselves loving that same woman who hurt them and they can't let them go no matter how hard they try.So yes, they do affect men as well.